A kiss is a bridge that joins two souls, said Serge Gautier. And he was not wrong. Kissing is not just a romantic act: it is a deep connection that transcends words. Closing your eyes during that moment is almost instinctive, as if the body knew that, when turning off the look, the senses are lit. But what happens when one of the two keeps his eyes open?
From psychology, The kiss is much more than a sample of affection. It is an intimate act that strengthens trust, reveals emotions and allows to express with the lips what the heart fails to say with words. According to a study by the Mexican Youth Institute, kissing activates a unique connection between two people, both emotionally and neurological.
And it is not just about metaphors: during a kiss more than 30 facial muscles are activated, while the brain releases neurotransmitters and hormones linked to pleasure and well -being, according to the article From science, what is behind a kiss?published by the UNAM Gazette.
During the kiss, it is the woman who, in 90% of the cases, tends to close their eyes, while, in the case of men, only 30% perform this gesture, according to investigations cited by the portal Uncomo. Psychology has an explanation.
Ximena Fuentes, clinical psychologist and couples, comments that kisses represent an emotional bond in a relationship, and that actions such as keeping the eyes open during the act can have a meaning that will depend on the context.
Open your eyes during a kiss in a public place, highlights Fuentes, may be associated with one of the people prioritizing security or modesty more than a sentimental issue. That is, in this type of circumstances, I could symbolize that “the person seeks to maintain control of the surroundings,” he explains.
It can also be a sign that the person does not completely trust the other and needs to see what is happening to feel safe.
In other situations, such as intimacy or isolation, Fuentes explains that kissing with open eyes can denote nervousness, especially if it is the first kiss or the first meetings with a new partner with whom a connection is tried to establish.
From a biological perspective, closing the eyes when kissing works as a sensory filter. “If I turn off my sense of view, I will have the opportunity to maximize my tactile sensation to enjoy the kiss,” says the expert.
From the emotional and psychological approach, not closing the eyes is associated with a possible lack of emotional delivery, a desire to maintain distance or a distrust of the other person. It can be interpreted as an affective barrier, either due to lack of connection or by an unresolved internal process.
It is believed that some people kiss with their eyes open because they prefer to maintain a certain emotional distance.
However, Fuentes clarifies that this act may also be related to a simple personal preference or even a natural reflection, especially if it is a usual behavior in the person. In intimate contexts, it could be due to a desire not to lose the visual connection with the couple, although this is not necessarily a constant.
Some people simply enjoy the kiss experience with their eyes open and does not have a special connotation.